Dating a very busy man
I had heard them all talk about him here and there telling stories that they shared with him, but still I never gave it a second thought.
His best friend kept telling Bubba about me and what we were doing, what I was doing, how I was doing and this started and December (I found all this a lot later) and then that Feb we were all over at Rachel’s place having game night and one of his friends was talking to Bubba on the phone and then his friend called me over there and said that there was someone on the phone that wanted to talk to me so I was like ok. It was the first time I had talked to him in years!
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
Among my friends, I’ve had girlfriends who want to hook them up with soldiers in my guy’s regiment, guyfriends who ask me if he’s going to kill them if they flirt with me, and even coworkers who, shall we say, were less than supportive of the military in general. So if your guy has committed himself to an serious relationship with you, he’s most likely going to stick to that commitment, and he expects you to do the same.
As a soldier’s girlfriend, you’ll have to field a lot of the same questions, and frequently clear up misnomers about the Army. Far too many of my soldier friends have had “Jodi” get their girl (you may want to look that up), and it’s especially hurtful to them.
Your girls may not get why you don’t want to go out because you’re waiting on an overseas phone call. They live their lives by the ideals of responsibility and faithfulness. You may not think it now, but while you’re dating an Army man, weird things can get to you. I want to eventually marry my soldier and he is my world.
Your guys may not get why you can’t hang until three in the morning anymore. For someone they care about to dump on those ideals is like a kick in the gut with a steel-toed boot. I used to love the miniseries Band of Brothers, and would occasionally turn it on in the background if I I was working. This will probably be true for you, and even your guy, as well. I will not see him again until January when his Basic and his AIT is finished. My car is now decked out in Army logos and I’ve written on my car windows that I’m a proud Army Girlfriend.
Well anyways about 41/2-5 years go by and my best friend Rachel and I started hanging out with people that we hung out with back in the day and at this time I’m 21 yrs old and able to actually go out like really go out u know.
So the people we started hanging out with and do stuff with were still older than us and they were all really good friends with Bubba they kept in touch with him and what not.
My boyfriend does his laundry at my house, and before he leaves for the week, I like to tuck love notes into the pockets of his feild gear that he can find later. When we pulled up we got out of the car to go inside the house to say hey to everyone and as we were going upstairs to the front porch Nicole and Jami (the 2 girls I was with in the beginning) started talking to this guy that was talking to Kalea, the other girl we were picking up.
The first week I did it, he came home with a grin on his face, and it brightened my world. I didn’t know the dude and they were walking inside so I was following them in as I was going inside I stopped to talk to Kalea well say hello because, she looked busy with this guy, I said hey and then she introduce me “Perrie this is Bubba, Bubba this is Perrie.” you know the usually, I said “nice to meet u” being the nice southern belle that I am and having been brought up the more traditional southern way, I had manners unlike him.
He was an ass, didn’t say anything, he said what up then turned back around to face Kalea, so I continued to walk in and was like what a asshole and never thought about him until like 2 years later.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating