Speed dating for mentally challenged
I was so embarrassed about being one of the great untouched that during my Freshman year, I made up a story about having gotten laid during Spring Break just to feel like I was one of the “normal” people.
that much in hopes that I might hit that metaphorical home run.
We get the Standard Virginity Loss Narrative burned into our minds early on, reinforced over and over again by pop-culture until we start to believe it’s the TRVTH, carved into stone tablets delivered to us at the base of Mount Sinai.
And believe me, it wasn’t much better for the women I tried to date, either.
I hurt a number of people in my quest to get my dick wet and, at the time, I didn’t care.
We come up with increasingly baroque reasons why we have been uniquely disadvantaged – we’re too “beta”, for example, for the notoriously “hypergamous” women.
The PUAHate forums that Elliot Rodger frequented take this to an almost fascinating extreme, comparing brow ridges and jaw angles and eye space in some sort of unified theory of sexual phrenology.
The fear of being “outed” as a virgin becomes a self-perpetuating cycle.
They so fear rejection for being virgins that they can’t bring themselves to approach women.
What makes this especially twisted is the way we internalize the pressure to fuck, to be a virgin.
When we fail to follow the narrative we get angry, lashing out at others and haranguing ourselves in turns.
The earlier you lose it, the better off you are (no matter how unhealthy that act may actually be), but you should be trying by high school.
According to the Standard Narrative, the ideal time is at some suitably momentous occasion: the “big game”, at prom… If you can’t manage it in high school, then you wants to be there because here there be dragons.
One of the reasons why men tend to freak out about the idea of being a virgin – especially being a virgin past college – is that we’ve grown up in the shadow of a cultural narrative that we believe to be law.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating